Beyond the Diagnosis – How to cope with a new reality following a heartbreaking diagnosis

Globally, statistics show 1 in 5 people will face some form of cancer in their lifetime.

At Texas Tech El Paso, Dr. Eugene Toy, Division Chief of Gynecology Oncology, is often one of the first to deliver that life-changing diagnosis to patients.

Dr. Toy said, "It's not anything you sign up for in the journey of life when you hear that C-word — cancer. To hear that word from an oncology specialist is sometimes numbing."

He walks patients through every step — from staging and treatment options to life-altering decisions — a role he says shapes his own perspective on life.

Even for caregivers, the emotional toll is real. When asked how he stays strong for his patients, Dr. Toy shared his sources of strength.

"Day in and day out, these intense conversations are never easy. But I’m blessed with a wonderful family and my dogs — they give me joy and peace. I’ve learned how to compartmentalize, but that doesn’t mean it’s not hard." Dr. Toy said. "People ask me all the time: How can you do what you do? I just say I’m grateful. It’s hard, yes — but incredibly rewarding."

The good news is numbers are showing more people are asking for help.

According to the Kaiser Family Foundation, the percentage of U.S. adults receiving mental health care rose from 19% in 2019 to 23% in 2022.

Meanwhile, a 2023 study published in Oncology Times found that nearly half of breast cancer survivors had a telehealth visit in the past year — and those experiencing serious psychological distress were three times more likely to use virtual care.

You're not alone. If you or someone you love is facing cancer, there are resources and support available to help you through the journey.

The Hospitals of Providence hosts a monthly cancer support meeting for anyone affected by any form of cancer. These meetings are held on the last Tuesday of each month, from 6:00 to 8:00 in the evening. They take place at the Rio Grande Cancer Foundation office, located near the corner of Wyoming Avenue and Virginia Street. The meetings offer a safe, welcoming space to share experiences, ask questions and find strength and comfort in the company of others who understand.

In addition to local support, the Ovarian Cancer Research Alliance, OCRA, offers nationwide services for those facing ovarian cancer. Free therapy and counseling are available, along with the “Woman to Woman” mentorship program. This program connects ovarian cancer survivors with individuals who are newly diagnosed or currently undergoing treatment, providing one-on-one emotional support and guidance from someone who has been through a similar experience.

No matter where you are in your journey — hearing a diagnosis for the first time, going through treatment, or supporting a loved one — there is help. There are people who care. And there is always a safe place for you.